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Blind Date Numero Uno
Buongiorno!

No introductions needed. I went on my first ever blind date a few days ago. It was quite fun.

The back story: I was minding my own business late one night when I received a text message from an unknown number--"Hey!! Are you still seeing that one girl? Are you still playing softball? There's a girl you should meet. She's awesome. You should go out with her."--and not knowing who it was from, I was a little curious. So, I responded, "I don't believe I know who this is, but in response to your questions, no and yes." It turns out it was a good friend from school. She'd tried to set me up before, but it was with one of our mutual friends' ex. I don't know if she forgot that I was friends with Mr. P, or what, but when she asked if I knew Mr. P's ex, I got a chuckle out of that.

I set aside my wariness this time and told her to set it up. She gave me her number and her story. From her background info she sounded really cool. I called her on Thursday afternoon. No answer. I didn't think leaving a message was the right thing to do at this point. I tried again a few hours later.
No answer. O for 2. Should I leave a message? No. Not yet. After an awesome baseball game on Friday night I tried again. Yes! "Hi, is Olive (That would have been a cool name) available." "This is Olive."
"Hi, Olive. This is Cory. Betty gave me your name and said I should give you a call." "Oh!! Hi Cory"
"How are you?" "I am doing well, how about you?" ........."You wanna go out sometime?" "I would love to." "What times work best for you?" "Definitely the weekends." "Okay, how about tomorrow?" "Tomorrow works." "Ok. Does 3 o'clock work?" "Sure, where at?" "Downtown?" "Sure." "Where should I meet you?" "How about the Book Bin?" "Ok, I'll see you there."

That was all it took. In my past dating experiences it has been my style to get to know a girl, say, in a class, or through a friend, and that is normally a long drawn out process. So, calling up some random girl and just asking her out was an interesting new experience for me. Much more fast-paced than I am accustomed to, for sure, but also definitely exciting. It is for that reason that I decided to write this. A new adventure is worth sharing with people.

I don't know if I was nervous, per se, but there was something making my belly churn a little faster and disallowing me from focusing. I hung out downtown a few hours beforehand, got a bite to eat, read a book, and just tried to pass the time without drowning myself in what-ifs.

I ventured down to the Book Bin 5 or 10 minutes early and I began the wait. Now all of the thoughts hit me full force. "How am I going to know who she is? I have no idea what she looks like!" "What if I'm not attracted to her at all??" Waiting can be hard. People passed me by. Families with kids. Couples holding hands. Smokers. A girl with blue pants and a blue coat over her arm. It looks like she is limping. Not her. "Are you Cory?" Ooops. "I am. You must be Nicole." "Yep." "Do you mind walking? I figured we could walk around downtown for a bit.".......

The quick re-cap--We walked through downtown. We played miniature golf. I won. We walked back downtown and stopped in at the Thai Orchid. Good food. Expensive, though. Finally, I walked her back to her new truck. "Maybe I'll call you again sometime." "Ok. Do it."

I sort of had a plan in mind, but it wasn't concrete. I thought a blind date was a good time to go with the cliches, which means miniature golf was on my list. In my car I had a frisbee and a football in case we felt like going to the park and hanging out. Then I figured w'd pig out somewhere and from there, I had no idea, but I suspected that might be the end of the date. It was.

I had a really good time. She was a cool girl who led a very interesting life. She was committed to serving God. She was attractive. Intelligent. Funny.

But I knew pretty much from the get go that I didn't want to go out with her again. I don't know why. "There was no 'click.'" I don't really know what a click is, but, no, I guess there was no click. At the urging of a friend, I checked out eharmony.com and they are big on the 'click' and chemistry. What it, though? How can a person on one side of a date and the person on the other side feel nothing at all?

People asked me how I could decide not to go out with her again after only one date. I went on a not-quite-blind-date a year or two ago and immediately after the date, I couldn't wait to see the girl again. There was nothing remotely like that here. I felt like I should like this girl. She had a lot of great qualities and nothing on the suface that struck me as a negative.

I didn't want to go out with her again, though. That's that. What do I do now, though? Do I call her and tell her, "Sorry, I don't want to go out with you again."? What's the protocol? I'm a noobie here. I felt lie maybe I should call her, but I had no idea what to say. Everybody told me to just not call her. After wavering between the options, a week went by and I decided that it was too late now. Surely she figures that I am not going to call her. Was that the right thing to do? It feels kind of mean to me, just not calling, but I'm not realy sure.



That was my first real experience with a blind date. While I didn't up getting hitched to Olive, I had a good enough time with the whole experience that I am open to doing it again.


Anybody know a potential date?